Weekend Update 01-28-12

So this weekend was mostly focused around Showers for my good friend and bride-to-be, "H"

Since Valentine's is fast approaching, the shower was focused around all think pink, red and hearts!
Dollar Tree, you are my friend for all the deco. It would have been great if I could have gone all-out and handmade or ordered lots of great things from Etsy and inspired by Pinterest, but I just did not have the time or funds.

The bride was pleased and that's what matters. We had lots of yummy food, including fondue! And in the spirit of making it a quintessential Southern affair- I had pasta salad and cucumber sandwiches. The latter was really quite popular with the guests. The bride's sister/MOH was also a great help and brought some amazing hot spinach and artichoke dip. I'm thankful she has kids and therefore had an easel, so I did not have to buy a big pad of paper for Bridal Pictionary :)

yummy fondue

a little bit closer now. strawberries, apples and coconut marshmallows

a wonderful friend of the bride made the cake

and another good friend made the punch

i may have gone a little pink crazy

everyone gathered round for games

it took a round or two, but they caught on

reading sweet cards

I did still go yard-saleing this weekend. I found a few cute things, including 2 dress shirts for John, a purse for me and 2 nice shades of OPI nail lacquer for $1!
I have to say, I'm 2 days into the OPI and it does seem to wear better than others. Only some minor chips and the infamous thin white line across the tip of the nail where it has worn off.




For those of you who've showed concern- my friend "S" is doing much better. She and her husband are strong people. I think they are cautiously looking forward to the next child the Lord will bless them with. I hope it will be soon.

Why are people so rude?

So I've been thinking for awhile about posting some thoughts and pondering arising from real life scenarios.
Today I'm covering- people not keeping their word. Specifically, the RSVP.

Does this card mean nothing?

Another wonderful insightful blog I follow did a great post on Millennium Manners. I gobble her posts up each Monday. I don't agree with it all, but do agree quite a bit.

Anyway, in her post she shares two stories, one about a child's birthday party where almost half the guest list just didn't show and the hosts had rented out an aquarium and had catered food and another where the author's table at a wedding was only half full because of no-shows.

If you've ever planned a wedding or any big party, you know that each person who comes is likely costing you a pretty penny and you've done lots of things- food, favors, name cards, seating arrangements, entertainment etc. just for them. And it's such an insult to have your planning spat upon.

Sure, there are valid reasons you may have to skip an engagement you committed to. But IMO, they are very few. Because when you say you are going to come, it's a matter of being a person of your word to actually be there. You family is sick, you got in a car wreck, ran out of gas, got called in to work, learned of a very important event for immediate family etc. Those are valid.

But too often the reason is:" It's no longer convenient for me to make time for your event, I decided it does not sound enjoyable, I found something better to do, or I just don't 'feel' like coming." So sad and so rude.

I've often been known to give a "maybe" when I truly don't know if I want to do something. It's much less hurtful to the hosts if you give this answer then saying you plan on it and then not coming. In fact, a lot of people know a "maybe" often means a "not likely" but is the kinder way to say it.

I think in the areas of weddings, showers and birthday parties people are much too quick to think it won't matter if they come. But it does. Accommodations have been made. The honored guest has been looking forward to your attendance. If a large number of people confirmed then the host expects a large number of guests. And these particular times in our lives are a good indicator of how big our support system really is. It's sad to learn that people you thought were friends are really just acquaintances. That you aren't important enough to them for them to take 3 hours out of their schedule to celebrate with you.

I recently had this experience on a much higher level when coordinating a party. Someone who had committed to helping provide food for the party did not follow through and did not call to inform me of the change. In fact, when they were contacted 15 minutes into the start of the party they did not answer their phone. Thirty minutes into the party they answered to let me know that they were still cooking!  A half hour later I was informed (an hour into the event) that they were not going to be able to come, but could drop off the food if needed. An hour into a two hour event! We were all more than satiated at this point. The worst part of all was that it hurt the honored guest. Especially when no reason was given besides "Something came up". For shame!

So I encourage you next time to receive an invitation to reply with veracity. Better to contact the host and tell them you can come even though you replied you couldn't than to bail on a commitment to come. Then your host will be pleasantly surprised rather than frustratingly disappointed. And for PETE's SAKE- turn the thing in! If it's an SASE, you have NO excuse! Pick one or the other, but don't just leave the host wondering and wasting 45 cents!

It's also a good time to put the shoe on the other foot and think about if you would like that person to attend your wedding/shower/party or if in fact they have done so in the past for you.

It's a matter of your word.

I would ask that you all say a little prayer

For some friends of ours, who've had their photos and initials on my blog before.

They were so excited to found out their were having their first baby, only to find out today that there was no heartbeat.
It has been a hard 2 weeks for them. "S" had her first appointment very early, around 4-5 weeks, and when she went back for her first appointment where they were supposed to hear the heartbeat, they were told there was a problem. The heart was only beating intermittently and the rate was much too slow. They told her they did not expect the baby to survive. Her body was not giving up the baby though and we all said many prayers and held out hope.
A week later the ultrasound revealed that there were no changes, including no growth.
Today, they were told that there was no longer any heartbeat at all.

"S" will be taking medications to compel her body to expel the "missed" or "silent" miscarriage. This refers to when the baby is not living but the body has not yet expelled it.

With her permission I'm asking all of you to say a prayer. That pain would pass quickly and there would be no permanent physical effects from this.

I know another blog I read experienced this same thing, only she chose to wait for her body to expel the pregnancy naturally, and it took six weeks for that to happen. "S" just does not think she can endure that waiting right now. I don't blame her. I just wish things were different for her.

Doing a little research, I learned that one in five detected pregnancies ends this way. And the risk of first trimester miscarriage is very high. But "S" and her hubby were just not prepared for this. They had no family history of miscarriage and I don't think ever imagined this would happen.

So pray that they would be able to walk through this hand in hand with Jesus.